Where we are now

Switching

Over the past two years I have explored my Dominant side. It has been a very enjoyable and interesting time.

Only once I was happy within my own mind that I was in fact a switch did I allow others to know. At this time I thought of finding a submissive of my own, I met and played with some, but it was only after several months that I came to the conclusion that I did not want a submissive of my own. I was happy to have play partners or to play casually with submissives at clubs and parties.

Master and I talk all the time. We have really good communication so when my switching nature was coming out we talked and talked about different scenarios and thoughts on where it would lead.

I don’t want sex outside my relationship with my Master. In fact I have had very few sexual partners and do not want sex outside a loving long term relationship. Though I do not see there being anything wrong with casual sex, it is not for me.

I find that I now play differently than I did when I was topping my friends. I now feel the power exchange between the submissive and myself. I feel the dominant control over the person I am playing with. I still play with many of my friends, but I now feel I take it further than I would have ever imagined I would have a few years ago.

Though I am not bi, I enjoy playing with both males and females. For myself it has nothing to do with sex. It may be sexual in nature but mentally it is not a sexual turn on. It is more of a mental rush. A total feeling of elation as someone submits to my will. I feel the power as they give over the control.

I have a Domme friend who I double top with and I also double top with my Master. These times are very special. Not only do you have the wonderful exchange between the submissive and the dominant but there is also the connection with the other dominant. With my friend and my Master, I have a connection that means we both seem to understand what the other is thinking; it is almost like a dance in knowing which one will lead while the other one follows. There is not one Dominant with an assistant helping, we are equal in the play, both taking control of the submissive and each taking turns at leading the play.

If I met a submissive I clicked with I may look at expanding the relationship with them. If as a couple we met a submissive who we both clicked with we may expand our relationship with them. We are not looking for someone, but we will not discount it ever happening.

I have found that since I have embraced my dominant side I have been able to see that when I submit to Master it means even more then I did before.

I have acknowledged my dominant side. I am always my Masters submissive, I will always look to him but I am submissive to no one else.

This last year has I have had the pleasure of playing with many submissives each one different. I have been pleasantly surprised at how easy I have found the cuddles and holding of a submissive after play. I enjoy the closeness of someone who has taken what I have given and who by submitting to me has given so much to me.

Some argue that casual play is just "Topping". This I disagree with. When I first tried doing this sort of thing I was Topping. My mental state was that of using the canes and floggers on a person. There was no power exchange, I allowed the other person to have as much say in the play as I did. Now I feel I take full control over the play, yes they have a safeword but within what we do I usually feel their submission rather than just giving them an S+M experience. However there are some who just want the S+M experience and that again has a different feel to it which I enjoy that also.

I was asked to be a House Domme at a FemDom night at one of the UK's top BDSM clubs. I was delighted to accept and had a wonderful night playing and chatting with many different submissives. It was lovely to be able to introduce new submissives to the kinds of things that I enjoy as well as playing with experienced submissives.

So now I have been with Master for 6 years. I am a switch. I enjoy my dominant side. I am not looking for a submissive of my own but I do have several submissives I play with. Those I play with normally become good friends of both Master and I. I feel close to many of them and want to see them in one to one loving relationships with a good Master or Mistress.

Now I enjoy a perfect night at a club.

I meet up with friends and socialise.

I enjoy the wonderful power rush of Domination as I cane, flog and enjoy one or two submissives, alone or alongside Master or my Domme friend.

Then Master takes me to one side looks deep into my eyes and tells me that it is "His turn now"

He then puts me on the piece of equipment of his choice and His switch slowly melts and gives her total submission to Him once more.

Floating home to cuddle up along side the Man I love totally and who loves me totally in return.