My thoughts on cross dressing written by a female Switch

If a male sub enjoys cross dressing and wants it to be part of scene or part of a relationship then I am happy to go along with it. Talking about and helping with make up and hair can help develop a bonding before any play that can be developed during the play. You get to know what parts of their appearance make them feel feminine. For example if whilst getting ready together a sub shows particularly that he likes the feel of the silky knickers that they are wearing, then during play I will take time to stroke the knickers, slipping my hand in over their bottom. Incorporating their love of dressing can enhance a scene.

If the sub prefers to come to me fully dressed and be treated as a lady sub for the duration of play then that is how they are treated. I will do my best to keep the persona of the sub being female at all times. Things like working around false boobies if they did not want them removed, wigs and any other part of what makes them feel good for the duration of play. I enjoy verbal humiliation during play and would use this appropriately to the person I play with. If they wanted to be treated as a lady sub then I would call them a slut or tart and point out how they show off their figure and tease all the men. I don’t like to denigrate a lady sub, I just like to play on their feminine desires.

If a male sub has no desire to cross dress but is willing to be forced, this seems a strange thing saying “willing to be forced”, but I think that these type of subs fall into two categories. Those who would like to cross dress but need to be told to do so, so that they don’t see it as coming from within themselves. They are a little bit scared of openly saying “I like to cross dress” and use a Mistresses desire to dress them as a reason to do so.

Then there are the other subs that really don’t have any desire to cross dress and submit to it and enjoy it as a form of submission. Perhaps I should include a third category of subs that once forced really enjoy the experience. They just need a little push in that direction.

I really enjoy playing with forced cross dressed subs. Just little pushes at first, making them go out and buy themselves knickers and then wear them under their day clothes or putting nail varnish on their toe nails. Working up until I eventually have them fully dressed for a scene.

The ritual of dressing them while verbally humiliating them can be fun. I think that humiliation is one of the reasons that those who are reluctant to or do not want to cross dress, get the biggest buzz out of being forced to cross dress.

Every sub is different and I always try to work for an individual and not stereotype a sub. I really enjoy a sub who I can humiliate; smudging lipstick, calling them strong names and pushing them during play can be a real buzz for me.

If they are someone who enjoyes cross dressing but are heavily into humiliation then I can, if appropriate for a particular sub, rip their wigs off during play and torture their breasts while verbally humiliating them, pointing out that they are just a mere man and could never be a real superior lady.

As I have said all play is geared to an individual sub. However it is for my pleasure also. I do have a sadistic streak in me but I will not allow that to mentally strip away a persons self worth. I get a real buzz out of someone submitting to me. Not just physically but also mentally. I love the look in their eyes when I take control of them. However I would not feel good about myself if at the end of a scene a sub was less of a person then he was before the scene. I like to think I can help them to grow as a person through their ability and desire to submit.

I have normally found cross dressers to be fun people. They are much more out going when dressed and have very few inhibitions. It is also true to say I have met some very shy cross dressed ladies.